Stop Competing And Start Living
When we follow the false notion that we must keep up with the Joneses, we are competing for a goal that may not be right for us. By spending so much time and energy chasing a dream not meant for ourselves, we seldom hit the phantom target of what we think we want and are far from what will really make us happy.
This is why it is very crucial to:
- Know yourself
- Love yourself
- Lose the fear holding you back
- Accept the fact that you cannot change others
- Accept the fact that you can only change yourself
- Accept the fact that life is short and you will die
- Map out what you want in life and go for it
- Live in the moment so you won't miss it when it goes
Once you learn that you are the only person living your life and you have your own agenda that must be followed, you can feel free to leave behind the shackles holding you in your prison. You are not competing with others, just yourself and your life time clock.
Imagine the afterlife IF you have to face a God to account for your life. Who would be there? Would a preacher be standing next to you like some school yard tattletale reporting to Him how bad you were? OR would be you and God on a one to one conference? Only that God would be the one helping you make the decision of what happens next. Not the nosy neighbor, priest, teacher, politician, clique group or whatever. In the end, you answer for yourself.
Or perhaps this is just the one shot we get and if we blow it, it's our loss? Or maybe if we screwed up this time around, we do it again? What happens when you die DOES NOT MATTER!! You are only accountable to what you are doing now.
Judge not lest ye be judged!
It is your life after all. Will you live it on the dictates of others or will you live it the way you know deep inside it should be lived? You are your only competitor.
Everyone else who thinks otherwise is a nosy person who has no business being there. They are only looking for a fault to make themselves look better in their own eyes. You need to love yourself enough not to accept their judgment. You cannot force them to stop judging you. You can only not give their pronouncements of you any credibility.
©1997 Callen Damornen/Judi Clarke-Copeland
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